How to Help Grieving Students
- Communication and honesty are important
- Be direct and honest in discussing death (it is ok to say, I don't know)
- Explain the facts of the death in general
- Avoid Euphemisms
- Pace out info in manageable doses
- Use honesty when discussing God and spiritual issues
- Provide opportunities to express their grief
- If social media sites are increasing their grief, perhaps a brief absence from these sites are needed
- Provide access to helpful resources (see some various resources below)
- Please keep in mind that constant reminders of a tragic event can be distressing
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Everyone grieves differently:
• One teen may want to talk about death
• Another may choose to cry
• One might write about their experiences in a journal or chat room
• Some choose to express their grief in creative/artistic ways
• Others are physical in their grief - participating in sports or other big energy activities
• No one way is the right way to grieve - your way of grieving is right for you (as long as it does not hurt yourself or someone else)
**excerpt from www.dougy.org
• One teen may want to talk about death
• Another may choose to cry
• One might write about their experiences in a journal or chat room
• Some choose to express their grief in creative/artistic ways
• Others are physical in their grief - participating in sports or other big energy activities
• No one way is the right way to grieve - your way of grieving is right for you (as long as it does not hurt yourself or someone else)
**excerpt from www.dougy.org
Facing Change: Falling Apart & Coming Together Again in the Teen Years By Donna O'Toole
This informative book helps teens understand their losses and discover
creative coping strategies to deal with them. Facing Change is unique in that
all kinds of losses experienced by teenagers are listed and validated.
Includes: Recognizing and understanding loss, Common ways loss is experienced,
Creative coping choices, Charting, finding, and using a support system, Things
you can do to help yourself through grief, Finding and Using help from others,
Bouncing Back - The art of growing through grief, Resiliency - The art of
grieving and growing, Coping strategies that work, 75 ways to help yourself,
How to know you're making progress.
This informative book helps teens understand their losses and discover
creative coping strategies to deal with them. Facing Change is unique in that
all kinds of losses experienced by teenagers are listed and validated.
Includes: Recognizing and understanding loss, Common ways loss is experienced,
Creative coping choices, Charting, finding, and using a support system, Things
you can do to help yourself through grief, Finding and Using help from others,
Bouncing Back - The art of growing through grief, Resiliency - The art of
grieving and growing, Coping strategies that work, 75 ways to help yourself,
How to know you're making progress.
Fire in My Heart, Ice In My Veins by Enid Samuel Traisman
This is a journal that encourages teenagers to work through their grief in a
creative and healthy way. It allows them to keep permanent memories of the
person that died. It also gives them skills to help them throughout their life
when faced with grief and loss.
This is a journal that encourages teenagers to work through their grief in a
creative and healthy way. It allows them to keep permanent memories of the
person that died. It also gives them skills to help them throughout their life
when faced with grief and loss.
The Grieving Teen by: Helen Gitzgerald
Although the circumstances surrounding a death are difficult to handle at any
age, adolescence brings with it challenges and struggles that until now have
been largely overlooked. But in this unique and compassionate guide, renowned
grief counselor Helen Fitzgerald turns her attention to the special needs of
adolescents struggling with loss and gives them the tools they need to work
through their pain and grief. Writing not only about but also for
teenagers, Fitzgerald adeptly covers the entire range of situations in which
teens may find themselves grieving a death, whether the cause was old age,
terminal illness, school violence, or suicide. She helps teens address the gamut of strong and difficult emotions they will experience and the new situations they will face, including family changes, issues with friends, problems at school, and the courage needed to move forward with one's own life. Using the clear and accessible format that has made The Mourning Handbook and The Grieving Child enduring and helpful classics, Fitzgerald guides teens through everything from the sickbed to the funeral, from the first day back at
school to the first anniversary of the death. Above all, she lets teens know that even in their darkest hour, they are not alone.
Although the circumstances surrounding a death are difficult to handle at any
age, adolescence brings with it challenges and struggles that until now have
been largely overlooked. But in this unique and compassionate guide, renowned
grief counselor Helen Fitzgerald turns her attention to the special needs of
adolescents struggling with loss and gives them the tools they need to work
through their pain and grief. Writing not only about but also for
teenagers, Fitzgerald adeptly covers the entire range of situations in which
teens may find themselves grieving a death, whether the cause was old age,
terminal illness, school violence, or suicide. She helps teens address the gamut of strong and difficult emotions they will experience and the new situations they will face, including family changes, issues with friends, problems at school, and the courage needed to move forward with one's own life. Using the clear and accessible format that has made The Mourning Handbook and The Grieving Child enduring and helpful classics, Fitzgerald guides teens through everything from the sickbed to the funeral, from the first day back at
school to the first anniversary of the death. Above all, she lets teens know that even in their darkest hour, they are not alone.
I Will Remember You: A guidebook through grief for teens
by Laura Dower
Just as death is a part of life, grieving is a part of living. For teens, this
can be a particularly painful lesson to learn. I WILL REMEMBER YOU is an
inspirational and accessible guide to coping with loss. It includes personal
stories of death and life from real teens, advice from a renowned grief
counselor, and dozens of hands-on creative exercises to help teens move through
their pain and sorrow . . . into tomorrow.
by Laura Dower
Just as death is a part of life, grieving is a part of living. For teens, this
can be a particularly painful lesson to learn. I WILL REMEMBER YOU is an
inspirational and accessible guide to coping with loss. It includes personal
stories of death and life from real teens, advice from a renowned grief
counselor, and dozens of hands-on creative exercises to help teens move through
their pain and sorrow . . . into tomorrow.